You are more than what you do for money.

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There’s always one question people never fail to ask.

“So what do you do?”

Most of the time they are not asking about your hobbies or what you like to do during your free time. They are explicitly asking what you do to earn money. Don’t get me wrong; I am guilty of doing this too. It’s a curiosity that has become second nature in us because money controls so much of our life choices.

While it seems like an innocent question, some people use your response to evaluate your worth. They will not hesitate to show acceptance or disapproval…


Your relationship status is just a label, not a determination of your value.

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At some point in our lives, we’ve all wanted a fairytale ending. We romanticize the day we will finally meet the person of our dreams and start building a life together. Even those of us who are skeptical of happily ever after hold this glimmer of hope that someday it will happen to us too. How can we not? The narrative that our life will only be complete if we find someone to spend it with is pushed onto us everywhere we look.

They say if you find your person, get married, and have kids then you’ll fill all the…


Would it change the way you live your life?

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*Spoiler alerts for the movie Timer (2009) ahead.

What if you lived in a world where you could know the exact second your soulmate comes into your life? This is the reality for the characters in the movie Timer, an unexpectedly thought-provoking rom-com. Once a person reaches a certain age, they have the option to get a timer implanted on their wrist. It counts down to the moment they will meet their soulmate. The catch is their soulmate also has to have a timer for the countdown to begin.

Some have a countdown of years, others days. Some decide not…


Money can buy you comfortability, but not happiness.

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Growing up in America we are taught to value the things that money can buy, specifically the things that are beyond basic life necessities. We prioritize our careers over mental health and self-care because we are told that money will solve all of our problems and lead to eventual happiness. To put it simply, money buys you things and things bring you happiness. At least that’s the narrative that we are raised to believe.

Soon we realize that the initial joy each material achievement brings us ends up being temporary. But after all of the sacrifices we’ve made, it’s easier…


You are not forgotten.

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As I sit here wishing I could tell my mom how much I love her just one more time, I can’t help but think of how different a person I would be if I didn’t have the mom I did. I also can’t help but think of all the moms who weren’t even given the chance to take care of their children and watch them grow.

Because not all mothers are given this opportunity.

Not all mothers are given the chance to nurture and care for their children.

Not all children are given the chance to stay with their moms…


Buying new things is not the solution. Realizing that you don’t need new things is the solution.

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The process of decluttering is a lot like cleaning. We might dread the action itself, but nothing beats the feeling of satisfaction after it’s completed. For some of us, that feeling ends up being short-lived, but it doesn’t have to be.

If you could declutter less often, would you?

Many of us have become accustomed to decluttering our living spaces each year or possibly even multiple times a year. It’s not odd to take a few trips to the donation store every now and then. …


Will you be silent or will you be an ally?

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As a child, I didn’t understand why kids made fun of me for the way I looked or the food I ate. I had no idea that racism was even a word, let alone what it meant. So I dealt with it in the only way I knew how — I changed what I could about myself to fit in. But what bothered them the most was the one thing I couldn’t change about myself: everything that made me different, specifically my outside appearance. …


Your lifestyle may be holding you back from living a fulfilled life.

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I grew up desiring all of the things that most of us strive for. I wanted my life to perfectly resemble the American Dream, and attending college was the first stepping stone. I assumed that a stable job, a loving marriage, a big house, and kids would follow after. I thought I needed these things to reach true fulfillment.

After graduating, I had every intention of getting a 9-to-5 job because I knew it would set me up for success — at least what I saw as success at the time. …


Even if you absolutely hated it.

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I yelped loudly seconds into the Oatly commercial after realizing that it was an ad for my favorite oat milk brand. I cheered and exclaimed “It’s a vegan commercial during the Super Bowl! We made it!”

Okay, maybe not a “vegan” commercial but just let me have this one.

I was so happy I felt my heart beating out of my chest. Plant-based options have been growing exponentially within the past couple of years, mostly just noticeable in the aisles of a grocery store. …


With it, you can save precious energy.

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Do you often find yourself in recurring situations that upset you more than you’d like them to? It’s not enough to ruin your day but definitely enough to ruin your mood. Because these situations happen often, our reactions to them can start to become automatic.

Maybe it happens when you are stuck in traffic or when your order at a restaurant takes too long. Maybe it hits you when a stranger acts rudely towards you for no reason. Whatever the situation may be, over time it can start to become a bad habit.

While I agree with most when they…

Antonelle Cara

On a journey of constant learning and self-growth. Nonconformist. Passionate about minimalism, animal rights, and health.

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